When I made the decision to change my health by eating better, exercising to loose weight. I did what I have always done, I turned to the people closest to me for support.
I knew eating better, exercising to loose weight and become healthier was going to be the hardest thing I've tried to do so far in my life. However, soon after making the decision to change and looking to my support system (the important people in my life) for support, the support was not there. It was then that I realized for the first time that I have an unhealthy dependency on others and their opinions when it comes to making decisions that are important to me. For years, what others think has weighted heavily on whether I went with my decision or dropped it all together.
How did I come to depend on others for the courage to make decisions that affect my life? Now at age 46, I am learning that those closest to you can have such an influence on you that they change your mind, discourage you from doing something that you had previously decided was a good decision.
Now don't get me wrong, I know they (family, friends) mean well but how can the personal responsibility of making a decision for one's self be heavily weighted by what others think? After all, this is my life and I should be the best person to decide how best to live it. When you think about it those same people who deter you from making and sticking with decisions usually have way too much control over your life and very little control over their own.
Recent lesson learned. The ones you love the most are normally the ones that keep you from trying new things. So, I've decided (independently I might add) to take steps to guard my dreams, aspirations from people who will persuade me into not believing in myself, believing in my own capability to make good, sound decisions for myself, by myself. I have also decided to make healthier connections, I'm going to pick and choose people who are good for me and I am going to minimize or reduce my connection to others who are not.
Thanks for reading my blog.
Nate
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